And now, I want to share that knowledge with you! Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in all things sex. One of the main frustrations I hear from my clients is that they feel pressured by their partners to have an orgasm. No one wants to feel that they need to perform a certain way in the bedroom. The clitoris is the center of the orgasmic universe for women. The best way to make a woman orgasm is by using your fingers, your mouth—or both—on her clit.
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For years I hated sex. I grew up in a Christian family where religious guilt loomed over my sexual pleasure like a dark cloud. I felt awkward even thinking about masturbating, I felt awkward to talk about sex. Sex, to me, was "bad. It started when I lost my virginity at 20 to a guy who had no interest in being the "giver"—a term I didn't understand at the time, anyway. I had no idea what good sex was, and for nine years I dated men who weren't able to make me come. For me, sex was always a chore.
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In a culture that talks so much about sex — and, increasingly, female empowerment in the bedroom — it's easy to assume that not only is everyone doing it, but that everyone is getting off every time. And beyond that, there are also many women who can't orgasm ever. That might be anything from negative self-talk, to intimacy issues, to side effects of medications that impact your libido.
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