Written by Andrew Kung. All opinions expressed in this article belong to the author. Beauty is a new section of CNN Style. I always knew that, as an Asian American man growing up in the United States, I wasn't as desirable or "American" as my peers. As a kid, I never saw Asian men dating outside of our race, or with white women especially. Non-Asian women felt inaccessible, fueling a preexisting feeling of invisibility -- one driven by micro-aggressions, a lack of representation and, ultimately, stereotypes that painted us as passive, emasculated boys lacking sex appeal and a voice.
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KIM November 15, Which begs the question: why? I sometimes ask that aloud. Nor should we feel obligated to constrain our options to Asian men. But too often, Asians are as guilty as anyone in refusing to see Asian men as sexual partners. What might just seem like a harmless non-preference for people of your own race may really just be the result of internalized self-racism. Apparently as Asians, we are, as a collective, small, meek and effeminate.
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I was born in a small port town in Japan and moved to Eugene, Oregon, when I was 5 years old, where I lived until I graduated college. Friends casually called us racial slurs. I brushed most of these comments off as well-intentioned, if misguided, jokes. And old stereotypes about Asian men persist.